Communication

In the past for communication we as people wrote letters and talked on the telephone. Today, we have letters, post cards, e-mail, cellular phones, land lines, text messaging, and social media (snap chat/Twitter/FaceBook/Instagram). With all of our communication sources why haven't we as people in relationships not have mastered how to communicate? We have all of the methods to communicate but we still get our wires crossed. We still make assumptions, we rather guess what the other is feeling or trying to say, and we don't take advantage of our communication resources. I know I can say how I am feeling better in a letter or text message before I can verbally. I am definitely taking advantage. So if some aren't taking advantage of all of our ways to communicate, it means that having the sources isn't the problem. We as people learn how to communicate from our environment that we were brought up in as well as our current environment. It is important to study your mate while as friends and while dating so you can identify what their face expressions, tone of voice, and choice of words, and eyes are saying. After you know how they respond to things and situations, you can have communication because you will know what to and what not to say. To me the best possible way to communicate in relationships is after studying a person. I rather hear a persons voice. I think texting and messaging, when you could be on the phone, is a way of saying you're not worth my time so I am going to send you a few lines in a text. What are your thoughts on communication? What form of communication do you prefer?

sex? Affection?

In our grandparents time period, some couples slept in separate beds, some in the same bed, and others slept in separate rooms. My grandmother and grandfather had relations every Friday night. With schedules like they are now, full time jobs and sometimes 2-3 jobs, taking care of children, household, and socializing, when can a couple have relations? How often can they have relations?
In our  grandparents era I often wonder how many sex positions did they have to choose from.
Today we have the internet, blogs, and magazine articles to read and look at different positions. We can research how they will make us feel. We have stores that we can purchase sex toys and outfits to role play. Was their sex life boring? Is our sex life wild?   Is sex important? Are there other ways to make love? Did our grandparents have fore play? Is foreplay needed ? There is so much to consider when it comes to showing affection to your spouse. Some people like touch some people don't like clinginess and want to miss their spouse.

Should the Chores of the Home Be Shared?

When I was a little girl every Saturday evening me and my grandmother cleaned the house. We washed curtains, swept/mopped floors, washed windows, wiped down floor boards, clean the restroom/bedrooms, did laundry,  and cleaned the glass/screens in the doors. My granddad enjoyed his baseball game while we worked.
Today house chores are shared by both in the home. Sometimes its done by who gets home from work first, some rotate, and others may clean together.
Grandmas came from a time period where the man was the King of his castle. Kings are waited on and catered. So can we rightfully today say that are husbands are the kings of their castle if we are not waiting on them?  
When it came to cooking, my grandmother did it all. She made my granddads plate and took it to him if he wanted to watch baseball while eating. When he finished, he called for her and she came and got his plate from him. She asked if he needed anything else before she went off to do other things. Some of  todays women either cook once in a while, don't know how, don't cook at all, or cook every other day, some the husband does all of the cooking. Every relationship is different. What are your comments?

Has the Duties of Wives Changed?

Today some women have gotten away from catering to their husbands and many look at as being old fashion. Some will say that catering to your husband is what our grandmothers did. When I hear that I cant help but ponder, is that their marriages lasted? Are we too busy for our husbands or are we selfish? The era we live in wives have careers, social lives, children that have to be taken to different camps, organizations, and extra curricular activities. Are we as women stretched to thin and are too tired to assist our husbands when and where they need it? I stayed with my grandmother majority of my life and I noticed that she worked part-time vs today's woman working full and got up from her sleep at 4am to make sure that her household was prepared for when her family woke up vs the todays woman that rises 2hours before she has to report to work. My grandfather received 3 hot meals a day. As a mom, I get up at 5am to prepare my house for my family to rise. I cook every other day. How do the men feel about not having a hot meal when they come home? Has the male changed as  the female has? Are our husbands as satisfied as husbands where then? Does the Proverbs 31 woman exist?
I am starting this blog to get a conversation between women & men going. Allow us to learn from one another. Please be respectful in the comments.